Means of Grace, Hope of Glory

Friday
Apr032020

Solitude in Surrey

In AD 305 (or then abouts), St Anthony emerged from 20 years of “self-isolation” inside a ruined fortress in Egypt. He had had his food thrown over the wall by friends and had spoken to no one – except the Devil at whom he was heard shouting. Athanasius reports that the substantial crowd, who had gathered to observe his emergence, were very surprised to see that he was both healthy and sane. This is most encouraging!
Sara Maitland

 

 Sara Maitland has lived as a solitary for many years. Today's enewsletter from All Saints Margaret Street put me onto her article on isolation and solitude in the Tablet. Here are a few paragraphes.


I was 70 last month, so I am now self-isolating, but in fact because of my personal lifestyle the major difference it will make to me is that I will save money on petrol: some other poor soul will have to bring any shopping I need up my hill for me and Mass, 25 miles away, has been cancelled. (I am sure you will all be relieved to hear that St Mary the Harlot in the fourth century was canonised despite never going to Mass and receiving Communion only once in her life.)

The first thing I would suggest is very simple: change the vocabulary. We are not going to experience isolation but solitude. ... "Social isolation", even "social distancing", sounds rather bleak; talk of "supported solitude" sounds very different. Isolation feels connected to loneliness and to compulsion; solitude to spiritual growth and creativity. Jesus may have been solitary through his fast in the wilderness, but we do not think of him as "isolated". When at the end of a long hard day we lock the bathroom door against even those we love and sink into a hot bath, we enjoy our moment of peace and solitude, rather than feel isolated or lonely. In fact, we know that a certain amount of solitude is good for our mental health - and because of its connection to "solo", solitude has an ambience of courage and adventure.

 

Actually, the idea that most of us are going to be "isolated" is simply untrue. We wake alone in the night and reach out for the light switch - and we are not isolated, we are instantly connected to a whole lot of people who are generating power to enable our solitude. When we turn the tap on, wait for the post, even put on a warmer jersey, we may be alone but we are not isolated; we are part of a huge complex social web. Most of us have telephones - 85 per cent of UK households have a landline - and many of those who do not use a mobile. Many are also connected to the internet and services such as Skype. We are not isolated as people used to be. And that is before we even begin on prayer.

Solitude is very good for prayer. This presumably is why Jesus was driven by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted. We all know that solitude, and its accompanying silence, is good for prayer. How many of us begin each Lent planning to build in some solitude, to go on retreat or take a day out of our "normal" routines, and realise, come Holy Week, that for yet another year we have failed again! This Lent we are being given retreat time, for free. We can even feel rather noble and "caring for others" about it - both for medical staff and for those more vulnerable than we are - while in fact occupying some space we have failed to use before despite our good intentions and our knowledge that it works. 

I only met Sara once, sometime in the early 1980s. She was the then highly respected feminist, writer, Anglican, friend of Ken Leech, and spouse of a parish priest in Shoreditch, London. A few of us from the Order of the Ascension went to the parish's first communion mass, Benediction, and backyard cookout on the suggestion of Ken. That's the four pictures above on the right. 

They invited us to join them in the rectory after the celebration ended. I vaguely recall a lot of scotch, cigarette smoke, and brilliant conversation. 

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Postings on the inner life and the virus

You know, and they know, that they are offering their lives      

Intercessions and the virus  

Solitude

The mystery of the cross

Solitude in Surrey 

We'll meet again

Fact and Illusion  

God's not indifferent to our pain 

Endures all things

Becoming an Associate of a Religious Order

People Touch

Spiritual vitality and authenticity 

The path of servanthood     

Down into the mess

Missing the Eucharist 

In you we live

Faith to perceive

Faith to perceive: In your great compassion  

Turn everything that happens to account

We no longer know what to do

 

Postings on Parish Development during the Virus

Power from the center pervades the whole 

To everything there is a season

Faith to perceive: Remaining inseparable

Monday
Mar302020

The mystery of the cross

The mystery of the cross

It is very difficult for us to understand the mystery of the cross.  Bodies lay unburied, families are unable to mourn properly, the estimate of how much death we will face is emotionally overwhelming.

It is difficult to understand the mystery of the cross. We will flee into sentimentality. We will flee into action. We will flee into magical thinking. Perhaps we will flee into our anger and hostility, or resentment and fear, or embarrassment and silence.

It is very difficult to give ourselves to stability and obedience in the face of our fear and confusion.

They went on from there and passed through Galilee. He did not want anyone to know it; for he was teaching his disciples, saying to them, ‘The Son of Man is to be betrayed into human hands, and they will kill him, and three days after being killed, he will rise again. ’But they did not understand what he was saying and were afraid to ask him.

Then they came to Capernaum; and when he was in the house he asked them, ‘What were you arguing about on the way?’ But they were silent, for on the way they had argued with one another about who was the greatest.    Mark 9:30-34 From today’s Morning Prayer reading

Depressing isn’t it? Yet exactly what we need to understand. It is the one thing that makes sense of it all.  Jesus isn’t the one who makes everything work out according to our wishes. He’s not moving forward to become the ruler who will make each of us great.

We hear that God has a plan. We seem to want to assume that it’s a plan for our personal life. A plan that I might be a great surgeon. A plan that my family will always be safe and healthy. A plan that my candidate will win the election. God has a plan and it is very comforting to know that God‘s plan aligns with my own. It’s an illusion. 

We sort of know it’s an illusion. Yet, we hang onto it. What do we do if we don’t hang on to it? What’s the alternative to our attempts to be in control? If we let go of that, what will we have? But our hanging onto it causes us to sink deeper into our loneliness and anger.

But if we have died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him (Romans 6:8)

God’s plan seems to have something to do with suffering, with betrayal, with a cross. God‘s plan doesn’t seem to be about me following my passion. There seems to be something called the Passion. And I may partake of it.

Be ye steadfast!

That’s one of the spiritual stances we need to take on for these days.

I just wrote the wife of a retired deacon. He’s 89 and in the hospital with the virus. The plague comes closer to those I know and love.

I found myself writing her about Blessed Frances Perkins.

“I have this icon of Frances Perkins on my living room wall. I think of her as a protector of us seniors. For about 15 years I was a consultant for St. James, Capital Hill in DC (now SS. Monica and James). She attended there when she was Secretary of Labor. The parish likes to say that social security was created in the rectory. She loved St. Paul's 1 Corinthians 15:51-58. She got her college graduating class to make their motto "Be ye steadfast." Sounds about right for these days.”

For now, maybe I can be like the disciples. Not really understanding. Sometimes brave and sometimes fearful. Sometimes in reality and sometimes in illusion. Sometimes in solitude and sometimes lonely. Sometimes gracious and humble and sometimes angry and resentful.

But I can also be like the disciples knowing this one thing—I must stay with Jesus in this journey. It is time for me to be steadfast. Just stay with Jesus in this journey.

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Postings on the inner life and the virus

You know, and they know, that they are offering their lives      

Intercessions and the virus  

Solitude

The mystery of the cross

Solitude in Surrey 

We'll meet again

Fact and Illusion 

God's not indifferent to our pain 

Endures all things

Becoming an Associate of a Religious Order

People Touch

Spiritual vitality and authenticity 

The path of servanthood

Down into the mess

Missing the Eucharist 

In you we live

Faith to perceive

Faith to perceive: In your great compassion  

Turn everything that happens to account

We no longer know what to do

 

Postings on Parish Development during the Virus

Power from the center pervades the whole 

To everything there is a season 

Faith to perceive: Remaining inseparable

 

Wednesday
Mar252020

Doing Parish Development during the Virus: Power from the center pervades the whole  

Power from the center pervades the whole[i] 

In “Light the Dark Streets”, Kilmer Myers wrote, “One of the main tasks of the parish priest is to train the militant core of his parishioners in such a way that they understand as fully as possible the true nature of a Christian parish.” He understood the importance of that core group. There need to be people of Apostolic faith at the center of each parish. 

During a time of anxiety and disorientation, such as we face now, it’s essential that parish leaders apply Myers’ insight. Those most given to prayer, humility and sacrifice need to be helped to play their special role in parish life. And that is exceedingly difficult to do when the normal practices and rhythms of the parish are so disrupted.

There are two models most commonly used to describe the relationship between this “core” and the whole body of the parish church. The oldest is Martin Thornton’s Remnant Theory. The second is my Shape of the Parish model.

[The] models are “critical mass models” in that they assume a healthy organization needs enough weight in the center to be effective.  Jesus seems to operate out of the same kind of understanding of how human communities work. While the Gospels describe the 5,000 that were fed, and while the 70 were sent out into the world, the disciples were a group of 12. And at the center of the 12, there was Peter and John. As Thornton says, “He restricts nine-tenths of his ministry to twelve Hebrews because it is the only way to redeem all…”[ii]

For Thornton the real work of the parish priest is to know enough ascetical theology to be an effective coach to the “faithful Remnant” as they develop their prayer lives. It is to participate in “a working partnership between two souls.” In teaching parishioners to pray, Thornton’s approach is that of a coach showing a batter where to put her hands on the bat, and how to position her feet at the plate, in hopes of actually hitting the ball and doing so regularly and well. It’s not about exhorting parishioners to pray, or telling them the history of prayer. It’s also not focused on those who have little or no interest in prayer—as we mention above, Thornton’s claim was that the priest should attend almost entirely to the Remnant, supporting and developing their prayer lives, and that this Remnant would serve as the parish’s heartbeat. A steady, regular heartbeat, both energizing and grounding the parish.  “This palpitating heart pumps the blood of life to all the body as leaven leavens the lump or salt savours the whole.”[iii]

Gallagher describes the Apostolic as, “People with a relatively disciplined, mature, full spiritual life; flexibility with self and others; an experimental and exploratory stance; competent and committed Christians.” Gallagher presumes living by the Rule of the Church in the phrases “disciplined, mature, full spiritual life,” and “competent and committed Christians.”

The Shape of the Parish model suggests a pastoral strategy: attend to all rings, nurture the overall shape, but tilt the parish’s climate, tone, and resources toward the center. In all of this, the assumption is that we accept everyone where they are and invite them to go deeper. Ideally, the parish organizes itself in such a way that leaders establish processes, structures, and climate that facilitate the development of a healthy Shape.

Here are PDFs of the models.

Remnant Theory - an image   Remnant Hypothesis       Shape of the Parish

 

The prayer of the Apostolic—those at the center—streams outward, flowing through the parish, touching members in seen and unseen ways. 

In a healthy parish, members are caught up in the stream—some swim regularly in the currents, some stand near the banks, others find stepping stones that permit them to approach the depths from a safe distance. But the stream is where members are drawn and where attention is focused in the search for refreshment. 

Health also requires attention to the Apostolic so they may fulfill their vocation within the Body.  The parish must provide ways to develop the competence of the Apostolic for living in the ancient pattern as adapted for modern life.  The parish must focus on improving their ability to become and stay spiritually healthy, which means creating specific and integrated means of building competence in spiritual practice.

What the parish offers to equip the Apostolic will also feed some others who may be ready to go deeper.  The “power from the center” therefore flows through and from the core into the rest of the Body. 

 

The Apostolic in a time of plague

The initial response of most parish clergy in helping the parish cope with the virus will be what they always do. Their attention will focus on the Sacramental or Incarnational rings of the parish. And that group certainly needs the pastoral devotion of their priest. However,that is also to say, we will neglect the Apostolic core of the parish.

Why do we do that and how might we change our behavior?

In my experience there are several interdependent forces in play that cause clergy to either forget or disregard the Apostolic:

1. We don’t have a reality based pastoral theology about the actual dynamics of the parish church. For many clergy that means that, on the one hand, we don’t understand the multiplier effect of the Apostolic if we partner with them, and on the other, we fantasize about the perfect parish in which everyone is Apostolic.

2. We think something along the lines of “the mature Christians can take care of themselves; they don’t need my attention.”

3. We are inclined to focus our care on the majority of parishioners. That seems responsible in a democratic sense. It's also politically smart. 

4. We are caught up in our own clericalism.

5. This insight came from Michelle Heyne, OA, Presiding Sister of the Order of the Ascension, “Priests are encouraged in so many ways to see themselves as program directors, albeit a specially religious one. The disparity between the priest and the outer rings is pretty obvious and that feels safer. It’s familiar territory and it receives conventional approval. When dealing with the Apostolic, the playing field is more level than when pastoring the tentative or immature. The Apostolic require a deeper well, a deeper pull on the priest’s resources. The Apostolic are more likely to serve as a mirror reflecting the priest’s own doubts, failings, hopes and yearnings. That’s scarier territory.”

 

Two actions

1. Ask the Apostolic to be who they are and do what they do

This is the most important “to-do” of this article. Parish clergy need to ask the Apostolic to “stay-in-role.” They are given to prayer—tell them how important it is that they continue in prayer and thank them for that good work. Remind them that they pray on behalf of the whole parish. When they say the Office at the kitchen table they are saying it on behalf of all those unable or unwilling. To use Thornton’s thinking – they are the team on the field.

One-by-one call them on the phone. You are their pastor, so certainly ask how they are doing—health, inner life, and such. Then tell them how important it is that they continue in prayer for the sake of the parish. How what they do is of great service to the whole parish. 

Many clergy are already inclined to overfunction. During this time, we may also be uncertain and confused about how to be a priest when there is no gathered community. Our anxiety may drive us to unfruitful behaviors as pastors and leaders. We may find ourselves copying what others are doing without the prayer and thought needed to consider what fits this particular parish. The Apostolic share the spiritual center with you. It’s not the vestry, or the busiest, but the Remnant that are your partners in this specific work. You will lighten your load and empower others for ministry, by staying connected to the spiritual core of the parish.

The parish priest needs to ask the apostolic to play their role in this time of fear and separation. To pray on behalf of the whole parish. To pray on behalf of those who don’t know how to pray, those whose hearts are hardened, and those who can’t pray.

Invite the Apostolic to dig deep and find God's work there. To trust the Paraclete who stands with us and supports us. I was listening to a doctor at an LA hospital being interviewed on NewsHour. He said something like this, "As you know the people that do this work are compassionate. Not just the doctors and nurses but the people that clean the rooms, the clerks, and the food deliverers. They are compassionate. Now they are showing courage."

That choked me up. Circumstances call out of us virtues otherwise hidden. The Promise taken by those associated with the Order of the Ascension notes the place of "circumstances" in the spiritual life. We assume that our stability, obedience and conversion allow those circumstances to show the Presence in our life; in this case the courage of God.

Invite the Remnant into their love and compassion, their courage and persistence, their stability and obedience. In the sacred mystery of the Body of Christ theirs is to serve all humanity and creation.

2. Support them

It’s a disorienting time. The routines the Apostolic have woven into their daily life are interdependent with the communal, face-to-face, life of the parish. Some of those at the prayerful center will find themselves a bit uncertain.  And that uncertainty will be magnified if the parish has been negligent, or incompetent, in the formation of the Apostolic.

So, a few ideas on how parish clergy can support the Apostolic.

1)  Reflecting on our spiritual practice

Reflect with individuals and groups of the Apostolic on their inner life and spiritual practice in this time of the coronavirus.

Conor Alexander, a priest of the Order of the Ascension, has engaged others in that community around the idea of interviewing people about their spiritual life. Over the past 25 years or so, people who have participated in a Church Development Institute have interviewed several parishioners on the pressures they face in life and how they renew themselves emotionally, physically and spiritually. The process is also part of the OA novitiate. Fr. Conor’s plan is to use the interview process with people who are in a variety of places in the spiritual journey.  That will include special attention to the Apostolic. Others may decide to focus on the Apostolic or those Progressing toward an Apostolic faith and practice.

PDF – “The Sanctification of All”-a spiritual practice resource that makes use of the interviewing method.       

PDF -- modified version of Interview questions

Explore with each person what do they find most fruitful – in “normal” times and now.  Encourage them to consider increasing that. For example, if they have had a practice of doing Evening Prayer with a friend once a week ask them if increasing the frequency of that might be useful.   Note: the interviewing process is designed to provide an opportunity for people to talk about their spiritual life without either judgement or “help.”

However it is that you engage the Apostolic about their spiritual life during the virus, consider differences in personality. Those familiar with the MBTI might use that as a framework as they raise questions and offer counsel. For example, it’s likely that introverts will be more drawn to doing Morning Prayer if a written format is provided, maybe including a brief reflection for that day and suggested intercessions for a few parishioners, and they can do it on their own and a time that fits them, yet know that they are sharing the practice with others in the parish. And it may be likely that extroverts will be more easily nurtured by either a live streaming format or a Zoom gathering for Morning Prayer. Of course, at times the whole thing reverses and what a person needs most is the opposite of what would seem to be a fit for their personality. I found doing Morning Prayer, on Zoom, with Michelle Heyne last Sunday just right. That doesn’t mean I’d want to use Zoom every day with a group of ten. Pay attention to personality differences. 

Some will struggle with any focus on the Apostolic because they fear a critical reaction from others. Two thoughts. First, you need to draw on the courage to do what is spiritually most effective rather than most politically acceptable. Second, consider the criteria you are using for focusing on the Apostolic. For example, what is it that defines the Apostolic? One thing would be that they live by Rule. So, they have a rule of life. You could say, “I’m inviting several people to meet with me on Zoom, or have a conversation by email or phone, who have a defined rule of life.” You might define it further. Assuming as a pastor that you know who has a rule of life, and among that group which ones base that on the Rule of the Church, especially the threefold-rule-of-prayer, you invite them to be in conversation with you (and the others).  You might offer another set of conversations for people who may want to explore creating a rule of life given their sense that they need to have more stability and prayerfulness at this time.   [More on threefold rule of prayer]. You find a way to allow the Apostolic to be connected and to receive direction.

There are themes that may be especially helpful to open up—Benedict’s guidance regarding keeping death before your eyes and the practice of stability, also Charles Williams’ thinking about substitution. Exposing the whole parish to such thinking might open new pathways for some members. But it is especially the Apostolic that can benefit from reflection, conversation, and guidance around the themes.

2) Resource the Apostolic for a connection with one of the church’s religious orders.

Most of the church’s religious orders have associates. Those of Apostolic and Progressing faith may especially find it helpful to be related to an order. It’s a way to ground and broaden their spiritual life and at the same time be supportive of those communities.

Religious Communities (an overview)       Becoming an associate of a religious order

3) Provide a way to engage the Apostolic around their fears and struggles

The Apostolic are not immune from distress. They will experience the same anxieties about their health and the well-being of those they love. During the phone calls and on-line gatherings, pastors can listen for that sense of unease. Follow up emails and calls to invite the person to share their burden may prove useful.

4) Connect the Apostolic with resources for reflection 

Parish clergy and diocesan bishops can play an especially useful role by identifying, narrowing down and offering practical ascetical and pastoral resources.

At the moment we are overwhelmed with information on the coronavirus. In the early stages of this crisis some clergy have taken on the role of providing information on medical and legal issues. We also have had to address matters of practice within our own communal life.  What has been lost in some cases is the ascetical guidance needed to stay grounded in faith.

Clergy don’t need to be the communicators regarding the virus. Let government and health authorities do that. Certainly, provide links to the best of what is being offered. But, what we can make available that no one else will make available, is spiritual guidance.  Pragmatic Apostolic truth is needed, not sentimentality or cynicism.

I’ve looked at a few diocesan webpages on the virus. I liked what Maine did. There was a page on a variety of resources, including a page on worship opportunities. The occasional messages from the Bishop didn’t take on the task of repeating or highlighting items. Make the information available while avoiding increasing communal anxiety by overdoing it.

You can narrow down the sources for people. Think five or six items rather than 20. For example, I like Governor Cuomo’s daily briefing. Here’s today’s. He’s received a lot of affirmation for the clarity and tone of the briefing.

I’ve been impressed by the efforts of Bishop Peter Eaton. He has offered a daily reflection. It’s been solid theological and ascetical work.  

On the Feast of the Annunciation Bishop Peter wrote about his experience arranging for his yearly physical. It included this --

So I rang the practice, and the administrator asked me if I was sick, because if I was sick, she said emphatically at least twice, they did not want to see me. I assured her that I was well, and that I would be in on Monday morning. “Well,” she added, before we hung up, “if you get sick over the weekend, we don’t want to see you.”

“I understand,” I replied, bemused.

“We don’t want to see you if you are sick.” Those are hard words to hear from one’s physician. Isn’t that exactly when a doctor should want to see a patient? It is a bit like a priest saying to a penitent, “If you have committed a sin, I don’t want to see you.” OK, but…

This was another indication to me of how upended the world is in this crisis. There is so little of the familiar and the regular for us to count on, even from those on whom we have counted before now. And that is the principle danger of this situation, isn’t it? This is all so unprecedented that nothing is sure, and this is what is driving the fear, the anxiety, the hording, the market, and, I daresay, the bad behaviour of those who are refusing to abide by directives from government, the health authorities, religious leadership, and so on. It can feel like all bets are off.

But in fact not all bets are off. At Evening Prayer this evening we begin to observe the feast of the Annunciation, the feast that commemorates the breaking into the chaos of our world of the peace and rightness of heaven. Here is the hint of Christmas: the truth is that the Word comes among us on this feast, well before Christmas, hidden for now within the Mother of God, but truly present nonetheless. Just as unseen as the virus, but a friend, not an enemy; and bringing salvation, not destruction; comfort, not anxiety; joy, not despair; life, not death.

Prayer and spiritual reflection and guidance first – then all the rest. The health and government authorities will not do our job for us. We need to stay in role. And that role can be both focused on spiritual life and broadly informative about the facts around the crisis.

For the Feast of the Annunciation

Pour your grace into our hearts, O Lord, that we who have known the incarnation of your Son Jesus Christ, announced by an angel to the Virgin Mary, may by his cross and passion be brought to the glory of his resurrection; who lives and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

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NOTE: Most of the material in italics comes from the draft of an upcoming book, A Pastoral Theology of the Parish Church, by Michelle Heyne, OA and Robert Gallagher, OA. I’m using it to explore one of the primary dynamics of the parish church—to use Martin Thornton’s words, “power from the center pervades the whole.” It’s a description of how things work. The dynamic isn’t just about a spiritual reality limited to religious systems but is a truth shared with all human systems.  When those at the center of a group’s life are healthy it is likely that the whole organization will share in that health.

Postings on the inner life and the virus

You know, and they know, that they are offering their lives      

Intercessions and the virus  

Solitude

The mystery of the cross

Solitude in Surrey 

We'll meet again

Fact and Illusion 

God's not indifferent to our pain 

Endures all things

Becoming an Associate of a Religious Order

People Touch

Spiritual vitality and authenticity 

The path of servanthood

Down into the mess

Missing the Eucharist 

In you we live

Faith to perceive

Faith to perceive: In your great compassion  

Turn everything that happens to account

We no longer know what to do

 

Postings on Parish Development during the Virus

Power from the center pervades the whole 

To everything there is a season

Faith to perceive: Remaining inseparable


[i] In Pastoral Theology: A Reorientation Martin Thornton presented his understanding of the parish church as the Body of Christ, “the complete Body in microcosm,” and his Remnant Concept, “in which power from the center pervades the whole.” The holiness and love of a Remnant at the center of parish life is for Thornton what makes a parish a true parish.

[ii] Thornton, Martin. Pastoral Theology: A Reorientation, p 49

[iii] Thornton, Martin. Pastoral Theology: A Reorientation, p 28

Thursday
Mar192020

Solitude

We long for connection, community and communion. It’s part of who we are as people, as Christians. It’s at the center of Christian life. And at the moment it’s becoming harder and harder. Our parishes are working overtime to full the gap.  It doesn’t quite do the trick. However, it’s something and it is certainly necessary. We do what we can. That’s good. But maybe we fail to see some aspect of our situation.

The live stream Eucharist isn’t the same as the Body gathered and the Body received. The class or meeting on Zoom is fine; gets the business done. But its energy and connection are less than a half-life.  The phone and email check-ins express genuine caring and yet they are not the same as sitting in a coffee shop face-to-face.  We, the Church, are working very hard to fill the gaps. It’s necessary. It’s faithful. But as the days go by, and it’s been just days, all of us will know the tug of loneliness. Some will be in a panic with it. The efforts of our parishes and ourselves will be experienced as inadequate in many ways. And this thing, this unseen power, will be a force in our lives for months and maybe much longer. The unseen power—the virus and our lonliness. 

God's invitation 

This time of plague will sharpen the dynamic that is always there. God’s call and our flight from that call. Here are two expressions of that which have been included in the Rule of the Order of the Ascension.

Our vocation is not simply to be, but to work together with God in the creation of our own life, our own identity, our own destiny-to work out our own identity in God, which the Bible calls 'working out salvation " is a labor which requires sacrifice and anguish, risk and many tears. Thomas Merton

For stability means that I must not run away from where my battles are being fought, that I have to stand still where the real issues have to be faced. Obedience compels me to re- enact in my own life that submission of Christ himself, even though it may lead to suffering and death, and conversatio, openness, means that I must be ready to pick myself up, and start .all over again in a pattern of growth which will not end until the day of my final dying. And all the time the journey is based on that Gospel paradox of losing life and finding it. ..my goal is Christ. Esther deWaal

For some of us, maybe part of all of us, the current efforts to stay connected will be Merton’s “vocation …to work together with God” and to faithfully live in stability, obedience and conversion of life. And for some of us, maybe part of all of us, it will be fleeing that good work; because that good work involves “sacrifice, risk and many tears.” 

Nouwen’s movements of the spiritual life

I’ve found the work of Henri Nouwen helpful in understanding that good work. He thought that our loneliness naturally evolved toward hostility, and that in turn toward illusion. It was a pathway away from our true life into bitter isolation, resentment, and self-deception. And the starting place into the pathway of grace was solitude. It was to choose and nurture solitude because that carried us into hospitality and reality.

Long before social distancing, stay-at-home orders, and quarantine Nouwen saw the way in which our loneliness could lead us to flee ourselves and look to others to fill a need they couldn’t possibly fill.   

When our loneliness drives us away from ourselves into the arms of our companions in life, we are, in fact, driving ourselves into excruciating relationships, tiring friendships and suffocating embraces. To wait for moments or places where no pain exists, no separation is felt and where all human restlessness has turned into inner peace is waiting for a dreamworld. No friend or lover, no husband or wife, no community or commune will be able to put to rest our deepest cravings for unity and wholeness. Henri Nouwan

Our task is two-fold. We are to ground that longing in adoration, awe, thanksgiving, oblation and praise. Secondly, we are to manage that longing within its spiritual polarity. We seek unity and we seek differentiation; we seek harmony and we seek uniqueness; we seek to be connected with others and we seek a true self. Nouwen believed we needed to learn how to enter into solitude. The longing for connection could only be truly fruitful if rooted in solitude.

 

You may find it useful to read these resources on the spiritual life before continuing

 

A PDF - Nouwen’s polarities of the spiritual life  

Three Movements of the Spiritual Life – a blog posting 

From Loneliness to Solitude – a blog posting   

 A PDF - Three Movements of the Spiritual Life - A Parish Assessment

 

It is right that we address the longing for community as best we can with opportunities for some form of connection, however partial and weak. It is right that we be the church, and do church, as best we can in these times. And the poverty of what we do needs to be accepted with humility and patience. What we do can be strengthened as we attend to the need for solitude as we pursue our longing for community.

We can be confused and act wrongly when driven by our loneliness; when we haven’t turned that energy into adoration and awe; when we haven’t given ourselves to solitude. The task isn’t to spend time bemoaning our failure. The task is to turn into the pathways of grace; the pathways of Christ.

To live a spiritual life we must first find the courage to enter into the desert of our loneliness and to change it by gentle and persistent efforts into a garden of solitude. The movement from loneliness to solitude, however, is the beginning of any spiritual life because it is the movement from the restless senses to the restful spirit, from the outward-reaching cravings to the inward-reaching search, from the fearful clinging to the fearless play. Henri Nouwan

As the plague continues and the enemy again and again invites us into loneliness’s restlessness, fear and resentment, we will need to find that courage, gentleness and persistence.

 

What can we do?

Understand the spiritual struggle you are in. Notice the moments when fear and anger take hold. Notice the frustration and entitlement when what you want from others does come.  And also notice the times of inner peace and joy. I knew the first when walking on California Avenue yesterday and a mentally ill man came closer and closer violating the six feet rule. And I knew the second when another older man out for his walk looked across the distance and said “good morning.” 

Spend time each day in adoration and open to awe. That may be by saying the Daily office on your own or with others at a distance or by acts of spiritual communion. I say Morning Prayer with coffee by 7:30 and join in the parish’s practice of common Noon Prayers using that day’s form emailed by the rector.

Engage in some activity each day that feeds a restful spirit and the inner life. It may be creating art or knitting a quilt. For others washing the dishes or painting a room. For me it’s taking a walk or listening to music.

Add your own things to do that are acts of solitude.

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Postings on the inner life and the virus

You know, and they know, that they are offering their lives      

Intercessions and the virus  

Solitude

The mystery of the cross

Solitude in Surrey 

We'll meet again

Fact and Illusion 

God's not indifferent to our pain 

Endures all things

Becoming an Associate of a Religious Order

People Touch

Spiritual vitality and authenticity 

The path of servanthood

Down into the mess

Missing the Eucharist 

In you we live

Faith to perceive

Faith to perceive: In your great compassion  

Turn everything that happens to account

We no longer know what to do

 

Postings on Parish Development during the Virus

Power from the center pervades the whole 

To everything there is a season 

Faith to perceive: Remaining inseparable

Monday
Mar162020

Intercession and the virus

I’ve kept my intercession list in a small blue book for the past 40 years. It is my way of managing intercessory prayer. I have two groupings—those few that I carry on my heart before God and the many I mention in prayer. I’ve accepted that I can only pray intensely for one or two people at a time. They are people that for a variety of reasons God’s love has impressed upon my heart.[1] The second group includes all those who ask for my prayers or that I have felt a desire to pray for. They go in the book and are mentioned during the Daily Office.

This morning I added to the second group – those working in grocery stores, medical personnel, first responders, bus drivers, bank employees, government workers, farm workers.

The list has been floating in the back of my mind for a week or so. Then late last night I looked out my window and saw two huge Safeway trucks across the street lined up to restock the store. There are all these people who are just-doing-their-job. Jobs that don’t allow them to self-quarantine. Jobs that put them at some risk. People who go home to families who share that risk. Our common life depends upon their toil.

A Compline prayer had come to mind –

O God, your unfailing providence sustains the world we live
in and the life we live: Watch over those, both night and day,
who work while others sleep, and grant that we may never
forget that our common life depends upon each other's toil;
through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

In times of plague it’s natural enough to become self-absorbed. We can understandably find ourselves obsessing about our health or defiantly refusing to acknowledge the danger. Both forms of excessive self-regard. Offering prayers of petition for ourselves is one way of moving our anxiety into a fruitful place.

Another spiritual practice that may help is intercessory prayer. Intercession for others draws us out of ourselves. It is our joining in the prayers of Christ and the saints for people other than ourselves. Intercession for those who continue to do the work that our common life depends upon: unites us and those we pray for to Christ, makes us more aware of God’s providential work, sets loose the power of co-inherence in a transfer of mystical power, and opens up other ways in which we might serve. 

Of course, during these times we may also want to take heed of Anslem’s prayer and give ourselves more eagerly and ardently for those we “hold more dear”—close friends and family.

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[1] I love all men, in and for your sake,
though not as much as I ought or as I desire.

I pray your mercy upon all men,
yet there are many whom I hold more dear
Since your love has impressed them upon my heart

with a closer and more intimate love,

so that I desire their love more eagerly – I would pray more ardently for these.

The Prayers and Meditations of Saint Anselm, Penguin Classics

 

Postings on the inner life and the virus

You know, and they know, that they are offering their lives      

Intercessions and the virus  

Solitude

The mystery of the cross

Solitude in Surrey 

We'll meet again

Fact and Illusion 

God's not indifferent to our pain 

Endures all things

Becoming an Associate of a Religious Order

People Touch

Spiritual vitality and authenticity 

The path of servanthood

Down into the mess

Missing the Eucharist 

In you we live

Faith to perceive

Faith to perceive: In your great compassion  

Turn everything that happens to account

We no longer know what to do

 

Postings on Parish Development during the Virus

Power from the center pervades the whole 

To everything there is a season

Faith to perceive: Remaining inseparable